Can you believe that a week today is Christmas Eve? I can't. I can't believe this year has gone so quickly, it only feel like yesterday that I was celebrating the New Year of 2017 and what a terrible year that turned out to be. It's nearly the end of 2017 and I cannot wait to start a New Year and a new chapter in my life. But before I start a new chapter, I need to close this old one and explain to you all the reasons why I quit blogging for so long.
Blogging has been something I have been doing since I was in my very early teens so not doing it for months has been so strange, but I wanted to sit down at my laptop on this freezing cold Sunday afternoon and pour my heart out about what has been happening in my life, how I have been feeling about it all and explain to you why I really quit blogging for so long. So, go grab a yummy hot chocolate and a festive mince pie and get comfortable because this is gonna be a long post...
Blogging turned from my hobby into my job and looking back I realise now how unhappy I was. I was trying to keep everyone else happy and stay relevant in this big beautiful mad world of the blogging community. But secretly deep down, I felt like I'd lost my blogging mojo. I was looking for happiness with blogging in the same place I lost it. I felt like I had to be this perfect shiny blogger who never says a bad word or gives a bad review when in reality, I started my blog to be open and honest, and although I have always been truly honest on my blog, there have been times where I have held things back from saying on certain blog posts because I wanted to be the blog post to be liked by who was sponsoring me for it. We all as bloggers feel lost and alone sometimes, and I know now that it's okay to feel that way. It's totally fine to feel like your blog is failing or that you aren't good enough because it's them thoughts and feelings that give a person character and help them grow.
I was struggling and I was scared to admit it. This year has been a really hard year in every way you can imagine, and my mental health has been the worst it has ever been. I've been on a mad, bad, sad, rollercoaster ride and I had no idea how to make it all stop. I wasn't able to control anything going on around me and it was all go, go, go. I was in an all-go numb like hateful pain with myself. I was in so much numb-like pain I didn't even know how to explain it or what to do about it. I felt alone. I felt depressed. I felt numb. I felt in pain. And that's one of the worst things about pain, it demands to be felt.
I was promising too much to people and brands and I was working myself into the ground to try and keep up with it all whilst inside my own head all I was thinking "no matter how good I do this blog post, I will never be good enough anyway". So I quit. I left.
I took two months away from social media and I took nearly four months in total away from blogging, and it's the best thing I have ever done. In that time I took care of myself. I got my health, mentally and physically, on track to the best it has ever been. I took the time to nap and meditate and relax properly. I took the time to make new meals and try new food instead of eating the same old vegan meals over and over. I took the time to spend time with my husband and make memories because even though he never complains at all I knew I was neglecting him
I've realised I don't need to share certain things on my private life with my followers because let's be honest although I adore you all a lot of you don't really know me so I don't need to be sharing personal things with you. It's okay for me to say "Sorry that's too personal for me to share with you". Because if you support me and aren't just being nosey then you won't take any offence, right? I've realised that if I don't blog life goes on and my readers who love my blog will come back time and time again to see if I've posted anything.
I have been away from my blog for four months and I can count on one hand how many bloggers actually took the time to send me a message to see how I was doing or if I needed anything. Them bloggers know who they are and I absolutely adore you all for doing so as you helped me on my 'time-off' journey more than you know. I once read somewhere that you should keep the people who heard you when you never said a word close to your heart forever, and that's what I intend to do. I've had one of the hardest years of my life this year but I am so thankful for it because it's made me realise that no matter how hard life gets, storms don't last forever.
So what now? I have absolutely no idea. All I do know is that next year is going to be my year because I'm determined to make it that way. I'm going to be turning thirty next year and I have some big plans for it! I'm going on holiday, it's going to be my parents' twentieth wedding anniversary and so many more. Plus so many exciting things which are happening blog-wise next year that I cannot wait for the year to start so I can begin them all and I can't wait to share everything on my blog and be proud of it again. The biggest change in my life right now is that feeling when I wake up every morning and I am happy, and I cannot wait to start my day and see what it has in store for me. My days now begin and end with gratitude, joy, love and happiness.
Please learn from my mistakes and go spend some time with some
With love, Alisha Valerie. x
Everyone needs a break every now and again, so glad you are back though! Sounds like the break did you good. Glad you are feeling so much better nowReplyDelete
I would recommend having a blogging break to every blogger. Thanks for your comment lovely. 💗Delete
I really appreciate your honesty and yes, you're absolutely right, you don't have to tell the online community anything. I've had a lot of health problems this year which I've never mentioned on my blog. I hope you have a good Christmas and new year, 2018 sounds as though it will be good for you xxReplyDelete
Aww babe I'm so sorry to hear about your health, I hope you're doing well now. I hope you have the best, most magical Christmas time and I wish you all the luck in the world for the New Year. Sending you so much love. 💗Delete
Im so glad you stayed in our little pod on twitter and you know we’re always here to back you up! A you took the time off to get yourself back up, thank you for being so honest and being true to yourself! Hope 2018 will be better for you!ReplyDelete
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Thank you so much guys! That really means a lot to me. I love being in our little pod on twitter as it's been wonderful getting to know you guys and everyone else in it as you're all amazing bloggers. Thank you so much for such a lovely comment, I've missed you. 💗Delete
Good article, you sharing is awesome, love it!ReplyDelete
Thank you 💗Delete
Glad to see you back and feeling better! We all need a break now and again, and it sounds like it really did you a world of good. So here's to avoiding burnout, and a happy 2018!ReplyDelete
Thank you so much darling! Your comment really made me smile, a lot. Hope your 2018 is filled with love, joy and happiness. 💗Delete
Glad your back! You don't know how many times I thought about quitting my blog because I didn't think it was "good enough". I took a week off last month and that was enough time for me to miss it so I came back and just ignore my thoughts and blog about whatever I want, the way a blog should be. ♥ReplyDelete
Thank you darling! Blogging breaks always do us good, and I've came back with so many idea's and things planned for next year. I can't wait to share with everyone what I have planned. 💗💜💫Delete
I love this so much! I’m so glad that you took a well-needed break and have returned with a fresh mind set 🙌🏻ReplyDelete
Thanks so much lovely, that means a lot. I'm so happy to be back! 💗Delete
Hurray - you're back! Blogging can be a heap of fun, but it can also add tonnes of pressure. I am so glad you're back, it sounds like you're about to have an amazing year, and I think you wholly deserve it lovely lady! Look after yourself! Great post, thanks for being so honest you brilliant lady!ReplyDelete
Thank you so much for your kind words Kate. I'm so happy that 2018 has now started and I can start this fresh chapter of my life. Hope you had the best year ahead also! 💗✨Delete