Friday 21 February 2020

Three Habits I'm Quitting To Feel Happier

AD | Hello my lovelies, happy Friday, I hope you're all having a wonderful start to your weekend!  I made a promise with myself at the start of the year that I was going to make some small changes to my daily habits to help me stay focused on the more positive and better things happening in my life. I want to spend my days in calmness, happiness and living my best life again, as my spark has sort of slowly started going out over the past few years and I want that brightness back. So, I'm making changes...

| Always Checking My Phone | I wouldn't say I'm addicted to my phone because when I'm not doing social media work (on a Friday or Saturday) I hardly even check my phone. But Sunday - Thursday I check my phone at least every hour because (not to sound big-headed at all) I get A LOT of emails during the day and I hate it if my inbox piles up so I always want to keep on top of it and reply to as many emails as possible. However, this year I have decided that I'm going to stop doing this and it's okay to check my emails every two or three hours instead of every single hour between the hours of 8am and 10pm.

| Over-Stressing | I am a 'what-if' people. I am a stressor. I am a worrier. I am a planner. And I don't do spontaneous, spare of the moment things because I always worry about what could go wrong, I want to try my hardest to not stress over the silly stuff in life anymore so whatever is happening in life I'm going to start recognising that I'm doing the best I can and that's all that I can expect from myself, so I should be proud of this. I'm going to focus on the twenty-per-cent on the problem itself and the other eighty-per-cent on solutions of how I am able to resolve the problem, letting go of what I can't control. As my Dad always says "don't give me problems, give me solutions!".

| Taking Things Personally | I hate mean comments and the mean people who make them. Being a social media influencer it comes with the territory that I'll receive negative and hateful comments. I've been called names for being disabled, I've been called names for being married, I've been called fat because I'm a UK size 12. And tbh, none of it matters because what does matter is what my lovely readers and followers think and not the bullies. I'm going to stop trying to please everyone and just be thankful for the people who come back time and time again and those of you who enjoy reading my website - I love you lot.

With love, Alisha Valerie. x