Friday 17 January 2020

Four Small Steps For A Happy Life

AD | Hello my lovelies, happy Tuesday! If you've followed me for a while then you'll probably already know that I try and remain as possible as positive, always, but I don't always feel on top of the world. So I wanted to share with you all the five steps I have taken which have changed my life for the better over the past year.

| Stick To Your Goals | This can be a hard one sometimes, I totally get that, but don't ever give up. Make a goal and no matter what comes in your way, get through it and focus on what you want in life. Prove everyone that you can do whatever you set your mind to. Everyone has the power to achieve anything that they put their minds to, you just need to believe in yourself.

| Trust In Others | I totally understand that sometimes it's best not to have certain people in your life anymore because they just aren't good for you. In the words of Lauren Conrad, "you have to believe that there are people in this world that only want the best for you." Every single one of us will be hurt by people that they love and trust, but you just have to remember your worth and learn who is worth trusting. Don't block yourself off from people, let them in and trust that they want the best for you.

| Say Goodbye To Negative People | As briefly mentioned above, there are going to be people in your life who are negative, and bad for your own mental health, say goodbye to these people. If you have someone in your life that you don't get along with or makes you feel like less than you are, you can two choices: Firstly, speak out and tell them how they make you feel (this could be face to face, in a letter, an email, a text message, etc) ask them to change their ways towards you and if they do then great but if they don't then you don't need them in your life. Secondly, if you don't want to talk to them about anything or you think the friendship between you both is past fixing then remove them. Ghost them totally, but if you're not able to do so because they're family or very close friends etc then be civil with them an only speak to them when they ask you a question directly, be short with them and they'll get the message. It's okay to remove anyone from your life who you don't feel belongs there.

| Stop Complaining | Stop seeing the negative and bad things around you, look for the good in everything and your life will be so much better. Even on your worst days: Woken up with a headache? Be thankful that you have woken up with your memory. Partner broke up with you? Be thankful for all of the love that you have shared. Car broke down? Be thankful that you have a car in the first place. Someone close to you passed away? Remember all of the good times that you shared, and be thankful that they're no longer suffering. I cannot recommend the book The Secret by Rhona Bryne* enough to every single person, this book changed my life and I'd love for it to change yours too.

With love, Alisha Valerie. x